We seem to view happiness as being laughter, presents, purchases, finding true love, or the perfect job, but it doesn’t always work out this way. We tend to feel many disappointments in our life journeys when our idealized view of these things doesn’t meet our expectations.
If things don’t materialize the way we fantasize we think we are unhappy and we either give up or keep chasing our idealized version of happiness inside our goals.
“It’s easy to get wrapped up in this fantasy world, which we assume others have access to and we are missing out on. But life will throw you curveballs and people will disappoint you. How happy you are depends on the way you respond to it all and how in touch you are with yourself” says happiness coach Georgiana Bailey
If there was a law to the happiness, I think they would look like this.
1. Allow yourself to experience all the feelings of life without judgment. You can’t feel the highs of joy and happiness unless you also feel the downs of sadness and disappointments. During the lows, remain hopeful and keep the faith that things will work out. The bad times will pass, just keep trying and doing your part to learn and grow from the experience. Don’t let yourself be a victim during the lows but instead accept them as if you choose it to happen this way.
2. Find your authentic self and live in alignment with who you truly are. Live your life according to your values and what gives you meaning and purpose. Whatever fulfillment that comes from this will give you a sense of joy and happiness.
3. Acceptance of yourself and circumstances that occur with a lens for viewing the upside to all events will keep you positive and in a happier state of mind. “If you are not in the state of acceptance, enjoyment, or enthusiasm, look closely and you will find that you are creating suffering for yourself and others.” Eckhart Toll.
4. Connecting with others through friendships and family is how love is expressed and felt. If you want happiness, give and receive love. Continue to nourish and cherish your loved ones. It’s never too late to find and develop new connections. It’s also never too late to forgive people who have hurt you. Carrying this resentment around does more damage to you than the person inflicting it on you.
5. Do what inspires you whether it’s connecting with nature, listening to music, creating something new, reading a book, or transcending spiritually. We all have things that give us energy, provides meaning, and uplifts our spirits. Including even the little things in your daily lives will refill your happiness tank.
Everyone has a different definition of what happy means but there are a few things we all have in common when it comes to living a happy overall life. Knowing and being yourself and living your life purpose is important along with staying inspired and maintaining healthy and loving relationships.
Julie Allen is a Dream Career and Life Coach in the Seattle area. She helps young professional and open minded individuals find meaning and purpose so they can live a more fulfilling life. Sign up for her free monthly Life tips at www.thestorymakers.net.
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